Cleanliness may be next to Godliness, but Messiness is next to FUN!

There is fun in being messy.  Admit it, when you were young you enjoyed messy activities.  Finger painting, mud pies, baking, clay, paper cutting, blocks, legos, I could go on and on, all are messy activities.

Making a mess is part of childhood.  Children naturally become engaged in activities that have many pieces, face it, messes are a creative outlet for children.  So, I say, celebrate the mess!  Enjoy the fact that your child is engaged, using his hands, eyes, fine and gross motor skills, sense of sequence, story telling, architectural skills, spatial relationships, and sense of wonder.  It's all good.

Here are some guidelines to help parents cope with messy activities.

1. If your child is truly engaged in an activity, don't interrupt.  Take advantage of these opportunities, your child is developing focus and concentration, skills that are valuable.  Give your child a 10 minute warning before he or she needs to stop working, then again at 5 minutes.  It is beneficial to prepare children for upcoming events and also for the end of activities.
2. Define the activity area.  At school we use floor mats about the size of a small welcome mat or throw rug to define the space for the child in which the child keeps his or her materials.  Other children know to walk around these mats so as not to disturb the child's work.  You can do this at home, use a beach towel, or if a larger space is needed a sheet to define the area where your child can work.
3. Only one messy activity at a time.  This means one activity needs to be cleaned up and put away before a new activity is taken out.  This is probably the most challenging guideline.  Children can be "trained" to clean up after themselves if parents make it a partnership and are consistent about doing it.  At first divide the work with your child.  You might say "I will pick up the blocks (legos, crayons, markers, paper scraps etc) on this side, and you clean up the ones on that side."  As the child gets older he or she can take on more of the clean up activity. 
4. Shy away from comment such as "Good Job!"  Praise is a tricky subject.  Children know when they deserve genuine praise.  Comments such as "Good job" are not specific and don't recognize a child's individual effort.  I recommend that you ask the child to come up with the praise.  Even young children can answer the questions, "How do you think we did on clean up?",  "Do you think we made a good team?" and "Are you proud of the job we did together?"  This gives the child ownership of the evaluation.
5. Ask Permission.  There can be certain activities in your home that children must ask permission to do before diving in.  You and your family can decide which ones these are.  Painting comes to mind.  Siblings should also ask permission to join an activity that another child has already begun.  Learn to respect your child's wishes if he or she wants to work alone.  Help your child learn to politely say, "I would like to do this by myself today.  We can do something together later."  Make sure they follow through on an activity with the sibling later.

These 5 simple rules make messy activities more manageable and will help your child have some "Freedon within Limits."  More about that in an upcoming blog.

Keeping Things in Order

Let's face it, staying organized is tough for children and adults.  Whether you are managing your family or a classroom, a few simple tricks can help everyone keep things in order.  Here is an idea to help your child keep his or her room in good shape.

As in all primary and elementary Montessori classrooms, the lessons are lined up on shelves.  They are organized from left to right (the direction in which we read) and from top to bottom.  The order begins with the simplest and most concrete lessons and continues on to the more abstract, challenging lessons.

In my classroom there are 20 different shelf units.  Once organized, I take a photo of each shelf and tape it to the top of the shelf.  Each child in my class is responsible for dusting, straightening and keeping one shelf in order for the entire year.  The photo on the top of the shelf is a visual to help that child keep the shelf organized.  This is a trick you can use at home. 

Take photos of the child's room and storage areas.  Bookshelves, closets, toy boxes, and even each dresser drawers can be photographed.  To clean the shelf, I have students start at the top.  They take everything off the top shelf and line it up in the same order as the photo on the floor.  They use a clorox wipe to clean off the shelf and each item.  Then they put the items back on the shelf in the proper sequence.  Then move to the next shelf down until the whole unit is complete.

When first starting out, children may need assitance until getting the hang of it.  Children as young as 5 are capable of this activity.  Children are part of a family and everyone in the family helps.  In my classroom children are part of a community and everyone in the community helps.

When parents come to visit the classroom their children show them different lessons they know and work they have completed.  I have often heard a child proudly tell a parent, "This is my shelf!  I am in charge of keeping it clean."

More tips on organization will be in further posts.  Give your children the tools to independently take care of the world around them.